I have always wondered how a movie is made - some go very well with the audience and some just diasappear as soon as they see the light of day.
Are all HITS 'good' movies or all FLOPS just that doomed ones?
Actually, not really.
I, for one, am a person who sincerely puts in an effort to like any movie I see (goes for my husband too). Of course the set I am referring to here is the A grade movies ok...
and not the lesser grades which anyways can best be avoided and not talked about.
What I am talking about here are the pure mainstream movies. If you have'nt got the point yet....
then, without travelling a very long way back,
there's a (A)'Guru','Dhoom 1/2', 'Munnabhais..','Baagban','Dus/Bluffmaster/Bunty Aur Bubly', 'Krrish/Koi Mil Gaya', 'Khosla ka Ghosla/Pyaar ke side-effects...' 'Judwaa/Hera Pheri/Hungama..', 'Main Hoon Na', 'Border', 'Hum Tum','Raaz/Murder/Gansgter/...','Dil Chaahta Hai','K3G', 'Satya','KKHH','DDLJ', 'Darr','Baazigar','Maine Pyaar Kiya', 'JJWS', 'Mr India', 'Hum Aapke/Hum Saath..', 'Devdas/Black..' AND
then there is a (B) 'Jaaneman', 'Baabul', 'Lakshya', 'Armaan','Roop Ki Raani Choron ka Raaja', 'LOC Kargil', 'Run','Darna Mana Hai', 'Fizaa', 'D', 'Nishabd', et al AND then, there is yet another set
(C) 'Shaka Laka Boom Boom', 'Hanan', 'Nehle Pe Dehla', 'Janasheen'
Apart from these...there are the slightly tangential ones..'Anwar' (have you heard of it?..check it out..good and different), the crossovers..'Monsoon Wedding' types,
the cool, urban ones...'My brother Nikhil' types, bold ones...and the list and types go on..!
MIND it...this is not an exhaustive list...as I write there are more names ringing in my head...but, I possibly can't name them... what I am trying to do is
bring out the segregation..which forms the foundation for the next things in line..
(A) - WOW!! You as a person may like some, may loathe some (hey...you anti Karan Johar, anti Yash Chopra freaks..)..but you can't ignore them!
This set covers the finesse of Mani Ratnam, the experimentation of RGV, the sentimentalist streak of Yashraj/Chorpas, the cool romantics - safe bets, comic ones - evergreen,
the Bhatt Camp creations, the action/superhero, Bhansali's brainwaves, patriotic ones...
(B) - Never understood why this lot ever failed! Good movies, some really good ones, some different, some similar formulas/directors/style as the A category - but, ppl just outright reject them.
WHY?? When I see this set, I can see the hard work that must have gone in. Everyone wants to make a HIT movie isn't it? They have it in them, the spark is there, the works ..everything,
but, then the verdict at the BO - Flop. Why? How does the general psyche work?
(C) - Oh this God forsaken set!! Why were these movies ever made? Why didnt they themselves shelve once they saw the end-product and saved us from the ordeal
! Didn't they know what was getting made at their hands? Or was it this crap they alwasy wanted to make - is it a sadistic pleasure in making us suffer OR
pure inadequacy, inefficiency and absolute lack of talent (talent?? may be too lofty a word in this context...let's just call it basic common sense!)
The (C) catgory irritates me to the hilt and I can never comprehend the internal working of the team which puts together such crap.
The (A) category shines always..you can see it/ense it when the movie is being made itself - be it sheer STAR power, great marketing, seasoned masala formulas (not formulae.. :-)),
great talent, glitz and glamour, something novel, cool and chick...whatever..these movies shine and are here to stay. You may like or hate them based on what type of movie buff you are,
but, you cant deny the status they enjoy! These are the Stars, the successes, the HITS.
So, I don't NEED to talk about (A)...they don't need any talking actually! I don't WANT to talk about (C)...let me save myself from reliving the anguish!!
But, it is the (B) category that pains me and surprises me. It pains me to see many a good movie just vanish. WHY? Is it that I am just too generous and like most of the movies
and should really place trust in the larger audience and see their point. They say Folp ...then, it is a Flop..?
But, why? I fail to see what the larger audience who brands these as Flops does. Or is it the other way round - do they fail to see the real thing?
(B) categor also has surprises...which may not be the very best movies ...but, they in fact are more or less replicas of their (A) category brothers and sisters..
but, yet they have a diferent fate.. (LOC..Border, Baabul..Baagban, D..Satya, and more such sibling pair..)
Think about it....if anyone has seen 'Jaaneman' - it had everything that makes a movie click..but, I would say that 'everything' was in a different mould..
and not the conventional style..was it the newness or the audacity of the director to say things in the face of audience which did it?
Shirish Kunder has his own style..may not be as conventional as his wife who scored a perfect 10 with 'Main Hoon Na'.
But, hey, he has got a Style of his own! Give him a break!
And why can't we accept that and appreciate it? Why did it not click with the masses?
There's a 'Roop Ki Raani Choron ka Raaja'...it had all the money, the masala, the works - did it work ? NO! And it brought immense losses to the makers!
The series of flops from Abhishek Bachchan not so long ago...I liked them all! What was it that didn't click? Am sure if they are released again NOW..people
will sit up and watch. Especially...RUn...it was an amazing movie..simple concept shown beautifully. Must have done well maybe..but, from the looks of it,
I would've liked to see it scaling greater heights.
What happened to Farhan fans...the ones who lapped up Dil Chahta Hai..why did they suddenly turn away from Lakshya. I know..i know..they were different subjects..
but the movie-making shows familiar streaks in both.
Border goes well..and people just pack away LOC, Baabul wins hearts of ppl...and the same don't really want to shed tears again in Baabul...the sibling twins remember?
So, there it is...the magic of movies, the magic of watching drama unfold on the big screen, the pains and tribulations that go into the making,
the BIG money at stake, the careers and number games which get made and unmade and the finally the verdict on every Friday!
Strange ..isnt't it....all that 3 hour power pack thrown at the mercy of an audience...which will react how..? noone knows!
But...whatever be the ultimate result...movies are made, continue to get made, we continue to watch them, like some/hate some/applaud some/award some,
It's a magical world really...I'm happy..as there is something new every Friday..which category remains to be seen!
Saturday, April 14, 2007
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Are we a 'sportive' people?
I am not a cricket buff, don't follow the game, actually not that I don't like it, but there is a certain eccentricity element in me which tells me everyone is crazy about it no - so, I should'nt be – generally revolting…against what..don’t know!!
Anyway, coming to the point in context, I was one of the EXTREMELY saddened souls when I heard that India has lost it’s chance to play further in the World Cup..
I did put an ear to various reports, conversations etc. around me which ranged from blaming Team India, analyzing what went wrong, sermonizing future course of action, taking a pedestal position and being philosophical, someone saying it’s ok- let’s applaude the other team who did better, some stooping down to a level of making personal attacks on the players, some saying it’s a game and we need to move on…etc…etc..etc…
In all this, I was very sad….very, very sad…there was an ‘I’ or ‘Me’ or ‘My’ element which had been hurt…extremely hurt.
I don’t understand the technicalities of the game..I was’nt blaming them…I could’nt really.. don’t have that kind of a temperament. But, yes, I was extremely sad, quiet, but very, very sad.
This feeling brought forth one of my biggest weaknesses – not capable of taking defeat. Not able to comprehend defeat being an option. Not at all comfortable with any ‘sport’ which demands that we be sportive, which says one will win and the other will lose.
The question always in my mind has been – why is’nt it the Academics way – do your best and you score a 100! Just because someone else is scoring a cent per cent, does not deny you the chance if you are equally deserving. It works differently and so much more better!
Nevertheless, we have had sport, since I think, ages. I am sure since mankind evolved, the spirit to compete has always been prevalent – I am not against that. But, if it’s not your day, a sport or a game mercilessly throws defeat back into you face. So, am I saying – it’s all luck and we have no part to play. NO, certainly not! But, the intensity and gravity with which you are hit needs courage, needs guts, needs the grit to take it and move one and needs the ‘SPORTIVE’ spirit.
Guess that is the most difficult part – to brave it in the face of defeat and move on.
That shows character.
Me on a personal level – I am learning, still not there, definitely not there, but, am consciously trying to reach there.
Life from academics to Professional itself gives you the first blow, starts showing you the harsh face of the world – here you are pitted against one and all – mind you, everyone around you is competing – at some level or the other.
I’m learning, have been for the past 10 odd years and as I feel I’m becoming mature by the day – and here comes a totally unrelated, something which does not affect me personally, a game which I am not interested in the first place – and it hits me, it hits me HARD.
What hit me most is that, I have still not really changed from the core. Under all the facades of professional maturity, I am still the same person!
I still feel sad, feel dejected, wish things could be undone and redone, take time to realize and come out of melancholy.
I have realized that some people are born sportive, when I say born – their mind is more or less inclined or trained towards taking things in their stride, adverse things I mean – either they are like that always or have been able to inculcate that from early on.
Now that I have realized I don’t belong to the ‘sportive’ species, I have a constant fear that my offspring may also turn out like me – which I would’nt want!
The kind of school that my daughter goes to is just right from that aspect. What they teach them is how to work as a Team; how not to focus on individual histrionics, but to gel as a team; to participate is important and not whether you win; not to attach too much importance to ‘compete’ which in turn makes you anxious about the outcome, but to participate. All this sounds familiar isn’t it, heard all the time? – Well I heard this too, but, in Gurukul (that is my daughter’s school), this is followed not in letter, but in spirit.
I see multiple examples of this spirit being inculcated in my child day in and day out, to the extent that I fear that she may not have the competitive spirit, killing attitude, go-getter perspective – but, then, are’nt we all more or less like that? Does that make us happy people? Definitely yes, when we win (that also comes with a heavy price of stress and anxiety prior to the ‘victory’); but when we see defeat – it also leaves us as dejected, saddened and despaired lot.
If the competitive spirit is coupled with courage to take defeat positively and move ahead in life – nothing like it – perfect potent mix that successful people are made up of!
I have a feeling that my kids are moving in that direction – which makes me happy, very happy. I smile silently with satisfaction and yes anxiety again that they should grow up to be secure, confident and courageous. Just hope that I don’t rub off my anxieties on them.
If my hypothesis surrounding me and my lack of sportive spirit is correct, I feel, we by and large a hugely ‘non-sportive’ people.
What we need is more and more people with courage; people with strength of character who can take on any adversity with dignity and calm; who will learn from their defeats and can bounce back immediately(I mean almost); who don’t immediately jump to conclusions; who can take the time to sit back, think, strategize and actionize; and who can once in a while rejoice in the opponent’s victory as well – well if not rejoice, at least acknowledge the opponent’s superiority, appreciate and applaud.. Definitely the last one is contextual – would’nt expect that to happen in a battle! I am not expecting people to become Buddhas, but, surely some amount of control over one’s mind and emotions will help us go along way and emerge victorious.
It’s time, we made a start – by at least acknowledging the fact that we may be quite ‘sporty’, but are not the best ‘sportive’ people. And then move on to sit down and do something about it.
At least, I have, in fact I did quite some time back….my journey is on….hopefully I attain my destination soon..
Anyway, coming to the point in context, I was one of the EXTREMELY saddened souls when I heard that India has lost it’s chance to play further in the World Cup..
I did put an ear to various reports, conversations etc. around me which ranged from blaming Team India, analyzing what went wrong, sermonizing future course of action, taking a pedestal position and being philosophical, someone saying it’s ok- let’s applaude the other team who did better, some stooping down to a level of making personal attacks on the players, some saying it’s a game and we need to move on…etc…etc..etc…
In all this, I was very sad….very, very sad…there was an ‘I’ or ‘Me’ or ‘My’ element which had been hurt…extremely hurt.
I don’t understand the technicalities of the game..I was’nt blaming them…I could’nt really.. don’t have that kind of a temperament. But, yes, I was extremely sad, quiet, but very, very sad.
This feeling brought forth one of my biggest weaknesses – not capable of taking defeat. Not able to comprehend defeat being an option. Not at all comfortable with any ‘sport’ which demands that we be sportive, which says one will win and the other will lose.
The question always in my mind has been – why is’nt it the Academics way – do your best and you score a 100! Just because someone else is scoring a cent per cent, does not deny you the chance if you are equally deserving. It works differently and so much more better!
Nevertheless, we have had sport, since I think, ages. I am sure since mankind evolved, the spirit to compete has always been prevalent – I am not against that. But, if it’s not your day, a sport or a game mercilessly throws defeat back into you face. So, am I saying – it’s all luck and we have no part to play. NO, certainly not! But, the intensity and gravity with which you are hit needs courage, needs guts, needs the grit to take it and move one and needs the ‘SPORTIVE’ spirit.
Guess that is the most difficult part – to brave it in the face of defeat and move on.
That shows character.
Me on a personal level – I am learning, still not there, definitely not there, but, am consciously trying to reach there.
Life from academics to Professional itself gives you the first blow, starts showing you the harsh face of the world – here you are pitted against one and all – mind you, everyone around you is competing – at some level or the other.
I’m learning, have been for the past 10 odd years and as I feel I’m becoming mature by the day – and here comes a totally unrelated, something which does not affect me personally, a game which I am not interested in the first place – and it hits me, it hits me HARD.
What hit me most is that, I have still not really changed from the core. Under all the facades of professional maturity, I am still the same person!
I still feel sad, feel dejected, wish things could be undone and redone, take time to realize and come out of melancholy.
I have realized that some people are born sportive, when I say born – their mind is more or less inclined or trained towards taking things in their stride, adverse things I mean – either they are like that always or have been able to inculcate that from early on.
Now that I have realized I don’t belong to the ‘sportive’ species, I have a constant fear that my offspring may also turn out like me – which I would’nt want!
The kind of school that my daughter goes to is just right from that aspect. What they teach them is how to work as a Team; how not to focus on individual histrionics, but to gel as a team; to participate is important and not whether you win; not to attach too much importance to ‘compete’ which in turn makes you anxious about the outcome, but to participate. All this sounds familiar isn’t it, heard all the time? – Well I heard this too, but, in Gurukul (that is my daughter’s school), this is followed not in letter, but in spirit.
I see multiple examples of this spirit being inculcated in my child day in and day out, to the extent that I fear that she may not have the competitive spirit, killing attitude, go-getter perspective – but, then, are’nt we all more or less like that? Does that make us happy people? Definitely yes, when we win (that also comes with a heavy price of stress and anxiety prior to the ‘victory’); but when we see defeat – it also leaves us as dejected, saddened and despaired lot.
If the competitive spirit is coupled with courage to take defeat positively and move ahead in life – nothing like it – perfect potent mix that successful people are made up of!
I have a feeling that my kids are moving in that direction – which makes me happy, very happy. I smile silently with satisfaction and yes anxiety again that they should grow up to be secure, confident and courageous. Just hope that I don’t rub off my anxieties on them.
If my hypothesis surrounding me and my lack of sportive spirit is correct, I feel, we by and large a hugely ‘non-sportive’ people.
What we need is more and more people with courage; people with strength of character who can take on any adversity with dignity and calm; who will learn from their defeats and can bounce back immediately(I mean almost); who don’t immediately jump to conclusions; who can take the time to sit back, think, strategize and actionize; and who can once in a while rejoice in the opponent’s victory as well – well if not rejoice, at least acknowledge the opponent’s superiority, appreciate and applaud.. Definitely the last one is contextual – would’nt expect that to happen in a battle! I am not expecting people to become Buddhas, but, surely some amount of control over one’s mind and emotions will help us go along way and emerge victorious.
It’s time, we made a start – by at least acknowledging the fact that we may be quite ‘sporty’, but are not the best ‘sportive’ people. And then move on to sit down and do something about it.
At least, I have, in fact I did quite some time back….my journey is on….hopefully I attain my destination soon..
Friday, March 23, 2007
Ahhh that vacation..
'Vacation'...that magical word has become a dream, a much-awaited break from stress, a time-window most eagerly looked forward to..
So much of time goes in anticipation that you actually start enjoying the pining, waiting, anxiety for the supposed utopia you would be transported into once you take off..
When I sit to think, do you really need to get away to a far-off land to be away from the daily mad rush? I would say 'Yes' and 'No'.
(A)'Yes' for various reasons -
to be really away which means hey, my cell is not going to be reachable;
to overcome the so called guilt of not able to spend real leisure time with kids (it's always....hush..i'm on call, don't make noise..am sending out this really important mail, a game of scrabble...not now dear, I am just drained out today..and it goes on..);
a status symbol declaring to the world...we went to xyz place..had a great time..you must try it...;
maybe sometimes some really real reasons of wanting to explore the place;
and most of all i think to just break away, in anticipation, that some place elsewhere we are going to be away from the reaches of the usual rut.
(B)'No' -
for people who have elevated themselves to higher planes of wisdom and definitely a degree more enlightened than us mere mortals who have ample control over their minds and can imbibe a clutter-free environment (read 'mind') for themselves in the midst of absolute chaos. Escaping to a far-off place - no, not for these wise ones;OR
for people who want to go to a happening place, but, are compelled not to due to various pulls that keep them back.
So, now with the basic analysis done (don't really know why I did it in the first place!..anyway..), let me say that I am of the first type - the 'Yes' type.
I would love to get away, just get away some place and WHY...probably for a mix of all the reasons I mentioned for why people of the first type do what they do.
Now, what does a vacation mean to me...?
I remember, as a kid, it was more or less packing off to our native place during summer holidays. I don't remember going to any fancy places...the escapades were mostly annual trips to visit grandparents or religious ones for the required thanksgiving to God Almighty. Thank God my parents took me along for the religious ones - lest, I would have died an atheist! With the way I have prioirties today, I may not like it so much, but, I hardly find time to do anything remotely revolving around temples or just saying a simple Thank You prayer to God.
So, there it is...come summer holidays, pack your suitcases (the big VIPs), get into the right compartment (my Dad did very meticulous planning around that...will need to dedicate a whole post on that one :-) ), off to Ammmamma or Mamma's place in all anticipation. It used to be great first and then, when the novelty wore out, it was..when do we get back?
In fact, with this pattern, I always thought how can one go to a place where there is noone to visit...
But, whatever..these vacations, with all the heat and sweat, with same place to visit year after year - were great times and see, I still remember them..most FONDLY.
Then, I grew up and got into this vicuous circle of professional life, being on-call and available all the time, having something or the other which is required as on yesterday; along-with that kids for whom I never seem to have enough time :-(,pressures of the day - all leading to a mountain of stress with burning lava inside ready to explode at the slightest pretext.
With this picture, I now CRAVE for a vacation.
I still enjoy the anticipation, the planning, the thinking over again and again of what all i will pack into that 'free' time window...
And then, I love those spur of the moment vacations too where we just decide and take off...
Alas, the second types are diminishing day by day. There are so many strings attached, so many loops to close...can't afford to go away without planning and announcing to the whole world.
Now before I go any further on this topic, one thing is for sure, I am in bad need of one!!
Fingers crossed and wishing for a fabulous time to unwind...what's wrong with dreaming !!! ;)
So much of time goes in anticipation that you actually start enjoying the pining, waiting, anxiety for the supposed utopia you would be transported into once you take off..
When I sit to think, do you really need to get away to a far-off land to be away from the daily mad rush? I would say 'Yes' and 'No'.
(A)'Yes' for various reasons -
to be really away which means hey, my cell is not going to be reachable;
to overcome the so called guilt of not able to spend real leisure time with kids (it's always....hush..i'm on call, don't make noise..am sending out this really important mail, a game of scrabble...not now dear, I am just drained out today..and it goes on..);
a status symbol declaring to the world...we went to xyz place..had a great time..you must try it...;
maybe sometimes some really real reasons of wanting to explore the place;
and most of all i think to just break away, in anticipation, that some place elsewhere we are going to be away from the reaches of the usual rut.
(B)'No' -
for people who have elevated themselves to higher planes of wisdom and definitely a degree more enlightened than us mere mortals who have ample control over their minds and can imbibe a clutter-free environment (read 'mind') for themselves in the midst of absolute chaos. Escaping to a far-off place - no, not for these wise ones;OR
for people who want to go to a happening place, but, are compelled not to due to various pulls that keep them back.
So, now with the basic analysis done (don't really know why I did it in the first place!..anyway..), let me say that I am of the first type - the 'Yes' type.
I would love to get away, just get away some place and WHY...probably for a mix of all the reasons I mentioned for why people of the first type do what they do.
Now, what does a vacation mean to me...?
I remember, as a kid, it was more or less packing off to our native place during summer holidays. I don't remember going to any fancy places...the escapades were mostly annual trips to visit grandparents or religious ones for the required thanksgiving to God Almighty. Thank God my parents took me along for the religious ones - lest, I would have died an atheist! With the way I have prioirties today, I may not like it so much, but, I hardly find time to do anything remotely revolving around temples or just saying a simple Thank You prayer to God.
So, there it is...come summer holidays, pack your suitcases (the big VIPs), get into the right compartment (my Dad did very meticulous planning around that...will need to dedicate a whole post on that one :-) ), off to Ammmamma or Mamma's place in all anticipation. It used to be great first and then, when the novelty wore out, it was..when do we get back?
In fact, with this pattern, I always thought how can one go to a place where there is noone to visit...
But, whatever..these vacations, with all the heat and sweat, with same place to visit year after year - were great times and see, I still remember them..most FONDLY.
Then, I grew up and got into this vicuous circle of professional life, being on-call and available all the time, having something or the other which is required as on yesterday; along-with that kids for whom I never seem to have enough time :-(,pressures of the day - all leading to a mountain of stress with burning lava inside ready to explode at the slightest pretext.
With this picture, I now CRAVE for a vacation.
I still enjoy the anticipation, the planning, the thinking over again and again of what all i will pack into that 'free' time window...
And then, I love those spur of the moment vacations too where we just decide and take off...
Alas, the second types are diminishing day by day. There are so many strings attached, so many loops to close...can't afford to go away without planning and announcing to the whole world.
Now before I go any further on this topic, one thing is for sure, I am in bad need of one!!
Fingers crossed and wishing for a fabulous time to unwind...what's wrong with dreaming !!! ;)
Monday, March 19, 2007
Do we know what we want?
Don’t know if anyone else experiences this or I happen to be the ‘chosen’ odd one (seriously…I would love to have company…and being kind of ‘chosen’ for this strange feeling is spooky!!)
Anyways…here it goes..
Many times through…I’ve felt I don’t know what I want!
When I was a kid, there were times I wanted to go, learn swimming and then I thought it was kind of complicated and not really worth the effort..
A little older, I wanted to be an expert on circuits and electronics, I spent some effort too, but, then always had this thought at the back of my mind if I really liked doing it..
A little older, I thought I should study to be an Engineer, I did that too, but then there was a little thought somewhere which told me I would be better off studying History or English..
A little older, I wanted to be in the cut throat world of business always on the move, and then something told me to get into a more in-office job..
A little older, I wanted to balance work and kids, have been doing too, but, something tells me this is not my calling..need more time for family..
It's choices, choices all the way...some decisions taken are good and some bad. Whatever be the case, we take them and live with them. Many a times, the path taken kind of makes things monotonous and we change the way things are....and then there is again the excitement to make things work..
With time, I've come to realize that choosing between two paths has been the most complicated thing to do. Someone else decides for me and I will be happy to follow. So, does that mean I am a good follower and don't really want to lead...not really.
I think I find it far more easy and nice to have someone do the thinking especially when there are options!
If only, life were simpler and we didn't need to choose from so many options...I may be sounding strange...but, seriously..whether it's what to cook for lunch today, which colour would look good on the kids to things like what type of work is really my calling....CHOICES, OPTIONS leading DILEMMAs and the pain to 'choose'...
It brings me to the thought - Do we really know what we want? Whenever the mind makes a choice, it is a function of various parameters which the mind understand are the variables in this equation. Intelligent species that we are, we tend to run these equations in our minds all the time - to choose between a pizza or pasta OR to choose between doing an 'in' jobe or taking it easy.. And then, there are times when the logic seeking neurons in the mind are overrridden by the heart (is that the 4 chambers...ooops..I don't want to apply my grey cells here again..) and we still end up making a choice.
So, good or bad, through mind or heart, whether we like or not - we are making choices all the time, everytime...If only, we had to do less of that. ...given the ordeal the mind goes through everytime that happens..
Anyways..that's the way it is...and the choice we make stays with us. Only, let's not make our choices paths of no-return..such that we can change course and taken the other less treaded path...
Is'nt all this that makes life interesting and gives it meaning. Live by your choices and succeed, have the courage to change course when it's called for and just give in to your heart's voice sometimes..
Now this sounds very philosophical..I think.. I actually like the sound of it!
If only..we had less choices to make...
Anyways…here it goes..
Many times through…I’ve felt I don’t know what I want!
When I was a kid, there were times I wanted to go, learn swimming and then I thought it was kind of complicated and not really worth the effort..
A little older, I wanted to be an expert on circuits and electronics, I spent some effort too, but, then always had this thought at the back of my mind if I really liked doing it..
A little older, I thought I should study to be an Engineer, I did that too, but then there was a little thought somewhere which told me I would be better off studying History or English..
A little older, I wanted to be in the cut throat world of business always on the move, and then something told me to get into a more in-office job..
A little older, I wanted to balance work and kids, have been doing too, but, something tells me this is not my calling..need more time for family..
It's choices, choices all the way...some decisions taken are good and some bad. Whatever be the case, we take them and live with them. Many a times, the path taken kind of makes things monotonous and we change the way things are....and then there is again the excitement to make things work..
With time, I've come to realize that choosing between two paths has been the most complicated thing to do. Someone else decides for me and I will be happy to follow. So, does that mean I am a good follower and don't really want to lead...not really.
I think I find it far more easy and nice to have someone do the thinking especially when there are options!
If only, life were simpler and we didn't need to choose from so many options...I may be sounding strange...but, seriously..whether it's what to cook for lunch today, which colour would look good on the kids to things like what type of work is really my calling....CHOICES, OPTIONS leading DILEMMAs and the pain to 'choose'...
It brings me to the thought - Do we really know what we want? Whenever the mind makes a choice, it is a function of various parameters which the mind understand are the variables in this equation. Intelligent species that we are, we tend to run these equations in our minds all the time - to choose between a pizza or pasta OR to choose between doing an 'in' jobe or taking it easy.. And then, there are times when the logic seeking neurons in the mind are overrridden by the heart (is that the 4 chambers...ooops..I don't want to apply my grey cells here again..) and we still end up making a choice.
So, good or bad, through mind or heart, whether we like or not - we are making choices all the time, everytime...If only, we had to do less of that. ...given the ordeal the mind goes through everytime that happens..
Anyways..that's the way it is...and the choice we make stays with us. Only, let's not make our choices paths of no-return..such that we can change course and taken the other less treaded path...
Is'nt all this that makes life interesting and gives it meaning. Live by your choices and succeed, have the courage to change course when it's called for and just give in to your heart's voice sometimes..
Now this sounds very philosophical..I think.. I actually like the sound of it!
If only..we had less choices to make...
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